Though often unrealized, help for codependency, alcohol and drug addiction should many times be a family affair. As people read through the addiction family roles presented they can often identify the person in their life who plays each role. Roles, though present in situations without addiction, often become more apparent when an addict is present. Members will unknowingly take on specific stereotypes that can many times be classified as:
The following information on each role defines how many people are instructed when taking basic steps to begin overcoming roles individually. Each role is given a brief description for understanding one basis of family addiction recovery. A summary follows with information on how and why the roles lead to codependency.
As with any recovery, it is sometimes necessary and helpful to gather information to better understand what others are seeing or feeling. For a family, information and help must be sought for the whole family before the recovery can be complete. Information and understanding may be all that are necessary to bring about recovery, but a specialist might also be necessary since there may be grief and loss to overcome in the process. The quiz section outlines some of the negative effects roles have and leads into codependency.
Addiction & Family Roles - A Short Quiz
If the second set of rules describes your family, please continue.
Addiction and the Family Roles How the They lead to Codependency
The parts played by family members lead to codependency. Members make decisions concerning what the other person needs. Codependency leads to aversion and lack of self orientation in a situation where an addiction is present. Ultimately people "become" the part they are playing.
The goal in alcohol and drug addiction recovery is to bring each member as a whole into a situation where the problems can be dealt with. Individual talents and abilities should be integrated into the situation allowing emotional honesty about the situation without guilt or punishment.
* The overall goal in overcoming codependency is to make each person whole.
People become familiar with and dependent on the role they play in families. In overcoming the family roles you will begin to overcome issues and what could be classified as the addiction to the role. While the conquering of the substance is important to the person with the addiction, a point to remember is the substance(s) is not the key to family recovery; removing the underlying roles are.
In beginning recovery each family member must become proactive against the addiction to the role and learn to become their true self. The goal is for each to person to become independent and then approach the substance addiction recovery as a group of individuals, rather than as people playing a part. Whole, independent people can freely contribute to the recovery of the person overcoming the addiction. A person playing a part can only perform the role.
* A true person utilizes strengths, while building up their weaknesses.
Addiction recovery for the codependent role is tough. You must be personally honest and decide what you like or dislike. This may be as simple as defining how you wish things were without playing the part and adding support or friends in areas, or as encompassing as rethinking the path of your life.
Refraining from forcing yourself to engage in activities, because of the codependency, is important to successful recovery from the addiction. There are many resources for codependent roles and overcoming these roles. Please, be honest in deciding if you have an addiction to a specific role in a relationship and find resources to help you in your recovery.
As you begin to understand, breaking the family role should become easier.
Remember to be understanding of others also.
Addiction Family Roles
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