Symptoms Behaviors and Relationships
Healthy Relationships vs. Codependent Relationships
The family system is an organism whose parts are interdependent, members operate as a system. Codependent symptoms and behaviors often go unnoticed, until a member attempts to get help for codependency symptoms, behaviors and relationships. There are rules that eventually develop which members use to determine how they should act and feel.
A system is made up of the component parts that are linked together in a particular way to accomplish a common purpose. The sum of these parts usually creates either a healthy family or one with codependency.
Recovery Help:
Understanding patterns and predictable ways families have for dealing with major problems.
Healthy Family System (no codependency symptoms).
Self worth is high.
Communication is direct, clear, specific and honest and feelings are expressed.
Rules are human, flexible and appropriate to change.
It is natural to link and be open to society.
Each person has goals and plans to get there, and should be supported by the family.
Symptoms of Codependency in Addicted or Codependent Families.
Dependent use of drug is the most important thing in a family life.
The root of problems for the whole is denial, rather than addiction or use of a substance.
Blaming others, making no mention of it, covering up, alibis, loyalty to family, enables.
Nobody may openly discuss problems with others.
Nobody says what they feel or think.
How to Help a Codependent Loved One.
Learn facts about chemical dependency and codependency.
Go to counseling or visit AA.
Encourage your loved one to get involved in new activities.
Refrain from preaching and lecturing.
Never approach with a holier than thou attitude.
Don't make threats.
Expect total recovery to take time.
Keep from over protecting your loved one from alcohol or drugs. The choice has to be theirs.
Ensure honesty, stay away from being deceitful or going behind your loved ones back.
Let your loved one find their way to overcoming the codependency.
Nurturing CommunicationGives Help for Codependency Symptoms.
Communication is direct and honest. Family member both listen and talk.
Self worth of each person should be recognized.
Problems are faced. Family members work together to solve their problems.
Feelings are accepted and encouraged, both negative and positive feelings.
Codependency in the Family,the Rules.
Don't express feelings.
Be strong, good, right be perfect.
Make us proud.
Don't be selfish.
Don't rock the boat.
Don't talk, or trust.
Resist outsiders in the house.
Keep family secrets.
No personal privacy.
Resistant to change.
Symptoms of Codependency.
Repression.
Care taking.
Low self esteem.
Obsession.
Denial controlling.
Little communication.
Weak or no boundaries.
Anger.
Sexual problems.
Lack of affection.
